This "Mr. Big" could stand for biggest asshole

I will not say all, but most girls have this SATC fantasy of meeting Mr. Big. He's a little older, very handsome, powerful & successful. Sounds like Prince Charming, sweep the free-spirited Carrie away and building her a dream closet in their penthouse apartment in the city... Now, the one part that everyone leaves out of this story is that Mr. Big is a finance guy and being so, he could have certain characteristics. One of those characteristics is a very high level of testosterone and most likely a very small conscience, if that. He was probably quite aggressive and maybe a bit selfish...and slightly unattainable, always slipping through her fingers just a little bit...and very tough to hold on to. Low and behold, Big is a character and a good one, so we did get our happy ending. Now, me on the other hand, I met a real-life charicature of who I thought could be a "Big" but with the qualities of someone Charlotte would have dated somewhere along the way and discarded immediately. He is good looking, established, wanting to get married, ect... So what's the problem? He's sexually agressive! He doesn't know how to take no for an answer, in sex or otherwise. Possibly he is so accustomed to getting what he wants that he doesn't know how to handle someone saying no at that very moment. Does that make it right or ok to attempt to keep pushing a woman into doing something with her body before she is ready? I find that to be one of the most disrespectful things a man can do. Furthermore, I think it illustrates the amount of respect he has for that woman in its entirity. For me, that's a dealbreaker. The thing that is hard about it is that otherwise, it seemed that it had a good potential to be there for me on all the other levels. I know I need to be with someone who is understanding and who has a good, giving heart and soul, much like my own...but maybe someone who will continue to foster that growth in me. So, lesson learned, every guy is different but I do wonder, can I be with someone powerful who will also respect my body and my choices...or are those two qualities mutually exclusive. I don't think they are. If a guy is into you for the right reasons, he'll wait till you're both ready.